All happiness comes from the desire for others to be happy. All misery comes from the desire for oneself to be happy. - Shantideva
i'm not that great to have the desire for others to be happy, but at least for those people i care and love, i truely want them to be happy. however, for some, i realised that their happiness upset and hurt me. what is that then? sigh.
Hmm, isn't that jea-lousy?
No one can upset and hurt you if you do not let yourself to be upset and hurt.
However, if it's an intentional act of 'happiness' to spite you, such 'happiness' would not last at all, and all the more no need to be upset and hurt about it. :)
it takes great effort to not feel hurt and upset though. well, u know me, yah? :) but i'll be ok.